Akimbo

 As I walk back home eternal sunshine begins to play, I am in my feels as I feel Jhene Aiko pull from my heart, sentiments felt but unable  to articulate. 

I don't know anything at all and it is beautiful. Each fall into the abyss eventually landing akimbo. God knows I didn't do it alone but fuck I am that bitch.  

 

I will acknowledge my own greatness before someone else does, it will stand on its own without needing validation from those not brave enough to walk a mile in my shoes but loud and wrong enough to try and describe my journey to you. 

I will tell you what I am without succumbing to the pressure of being in your suffocating box. 

Projections

At what point should you question the validity of what you are thinking? 

Projections aren’t static, its easier to project onto someone than it is not to, sometimes we don’t even realise we are projecting. It

I had initially been thinking about projections and the role they play when building relationships with others, what are we projecting and how much of that projection is clouding the reality of the other and denying them the space to exist as them and instead of squeezing them in a small box we have conveniently marked with the role this person must play in our life. 

I thought about how projections work in already established relationships and what role they play in maintaining these relationships? Because if you start with projecting what it is you want to see and how you want to see it, what happens when the reality is no longer deniable? Whatever coping strategy picked will at some point no longer work once the boiling has reached. 

It is easy for the want to cloud our judgement to get lost within it, it is often much louder than reality and this dissonance causes pain. 

I am empathetic. I am patient with others and self because our being is born out of learning, we are here to learn and things won’t always just make sense. It is in the spaces where the opportunity to apply what we learnt through reflection, introspection and prayer where growth happens. 

It is in these spaces where we learn that intentionality should be applied.

Slow down and see people for what or whom they are and go to where you are seen and valued, that what you want from relationships is out there and you don’t have to settle for the crumbs in projections. 

This applies to all relationships out there, familial, platonic, romantic and whatever other kinds of relationship type yall are developing.

A mothersucking update.

Tehehe oi oi oi okay so this here projections really helps me know and understand when it shows up in others, EGO is strong in projections when we do not choose to acknowledge our part in and take accountability for how we act either in reaction to or response to what we think we know. I am learning further the role of humility and communication to projections and how silly projections when they play out.

Defensive mechanisms do more harm than good in the long run, they alienate us and imply intrinsic victimhood on us and because lies are drenched the sickly nectar of deceit that truth can't always compete. 

That's why it is really important to know yourself deeply, your actions and your intentions and motivations. No one can come and spew their wayward shit.

So much of projections is insecurities that blind us into thinking we are the main stars in other people's lives, this kind of living is a bit dead. 

Death

 We tiptoe the line of life and death in an intricate and delicate dance daily, it happens all around us and inside us. We mourn the loss selfishly, the grief heavy as we move through the process of healing that which we have lost. When is the right time to celebrate what we had, what could come and the grace period for ourselves? 

A king lay died at the foot of the grim reapers’ horse, a young child extends her arm to offer him a single rose, her other arm reaches for the woman who looks away in defeat, as an older woman pleads with the grim reaper. Coming over the horizon on the other side of the river is the light of the sun as it passes through two columns. 

Death is funny, grief is real very VERY real.

It is far too easy to be fixated on what death takes from us than to imagine new with what we are left with. Familiarity acts like a safety blanket but is a net that stops us from exploring and moving forward positively. 

There is so much opportunity in the end that to fear it is to fear living and life. Once you are done with the mourning there is joy coming. 

Resistance to change is futile, death is an opportunity to let go of that which no longer supports us and welcome that which is nourishing. Embracing transformation allows for participation during this transformative state. Cut out excess and let go of what is unnecessary, clear what is old, stagnant and getting in your way.

I honour Spirit and know that anything is possible. 

I let God have a more active presence in my life and I know that my life is divinely guided, I surrender to this truth. 

I  know I am loved, guided and protected by a higher source. 

I am open to seeking guidance in spiritual quests. 

Listen to Santigold Master of My Make-Believe. 

Crystal -  Uvarovite Garnet a very transformative stone that pushes one to constantly change. 

Nine Of Swords

A figure sits up in bed with face in hand, appears to have been startled by a nightmare. Behind them is a dark wall of 9 nine swords, the tips out of shot, implying no end and their duvet are a covered in full-bloomed roses. 

Negative thoughts consume you and are keeping you up at night, you are stressed, anxious and obsessing over whatever isn’t going well. Do not feed into this loop of associating with the fears and letting them rule your life, negativity feeds and thrives off of this. The more you obsess the more it appears. 

The fear you feel is not indicative of your reality, the turmoil this is creating has left you feeling overwhelmed, do not let this affect your spiritual practices. The duvet is your reality, abundance beauty.

I accept the oneness of all life and I know I am one with others on this journey.
I support them and let them support me. I am brave and not afraid to ask for assistance. 

I allow myself to empathise and sympathise with others and choose to see the love in all around me. 

I accept others for who they are. I bring harmony by finding common grounds with others. 

Crystal - Hematite. Clears stress, anxiety and worry. It neutralises negative energy in the root chakra and aligns all seven chakras.

Listen to Mike Posner - Keep Going. 

Some body My body

My thighs have always kissed and my belly entered rooms before I did, I heard all sorts of comments about my weight. In my head, I looked like Fat Albert but every time I have looked back at pictures I think damn, I wasn’t half as bad as I imagined, then I would remember that I look like FAT Albert currently and that was an image from the past and the cycle would continue, it didn’t help every time I heard comments it confirmed this image. I had a love hate relationship with my body and the gym. I joined new gyms every 3 months and tried diets just as regularly.

Body image is the emotional attitudes, beliefs and perceptions of our bodies, what we believe about our appearance, how we feel about our bodies. Our negative or positive body image is informed by a large number of factors, from early childhood, our peers and the media each feeding into the other. Research has shown that people with poor body image are sometimes drawn to those who see them as they see themselves - negatively. Poor body image is linked with feeling less deserving of happiness, which can lead people to tolerate poor treatment from others.

We must begin to love our bodies as they, this is a radical act of self-love.

Self-love is loving yourself fully, flaws and all this looks like being honest with ourselves about who we are, what we want and what our strengths and weaknesses are and what we need to do in order to get where we want to be. It is the way we treat ourselves, the thoughts and feelings we have about ourselves, the effort we are willing to put into us, how we talk about ourselves. 

It is having a positive view of ourselves and knowing that even on the not so great days, there is a love that underlies it all. When we get angry, or disappointed in ourselves, we can forgive ourselves and make decisions that support our wellbeing. 

There are numerous practical things we can do to improve our body image, as it is subject fluctuation these and many other things must be done continuously. 

Unlike exercise for weightless mindful exercise doesn’t rely on punishment, competition or weight. Its a more pleasurable exercise that should remind us of how amazing our bodies are. These bodies can be strong tough and enduring also soft, tender and flexible. For some people, this might look like running, going to the gym or cycling. For others it might be yoga, dancing around your room or a mindful walk to and from the park.

Notice new things to be grateful for each day and journal that, this can be something as non-complex as having a shower, listening to a song you haven’t heard in years or completing a job application, nothing is too small or too insignificant if it made your heart smile write it. 

Set boundaries and establish a firm sense of right and wrong regarding your personal space. Use verbal, written or nonverbal prompts, non-verbal can be taking a couple of steps back if you feel someone has overstepped a personal boundary you have set for yourself. Write down how you feel in certain situations such as if someone feels too demanding of your time can help you in finding the right words to express your concerns. 

Your body deserves all your love, at every size. You deserve flowers and things that make you smile even as your belly rolls and fat jiggles when you run. You deserve stars in your eyes and butterflies in your belly, the cornucopia that houses you is enough and beautiful as it because no one else looks like or even is you. Flaunt it all baby flaunt it all!!

P.s If loving your body is difficult, at least respect it. It has done and continues to do amazing things daily. 

The High Priestess

The High Priestess sits between two pillars of duality. Dark and light, masculine and feminine, negative and positive. Pillars of establishment and strength. 

 She sits before a pomegranate clad veil, a symbol heavy in feminine connotations of abundance, fertility, luxury and passion. On her lap is a laptop and access to a vast amount of knowledge. By her foot lie a crescent moon, she trusts her instincts and has control of her emotions. 

Divine femininity is encompassed within the high priestess, the esoteric knowledge she holds roots her firmly in Spirit and God. She is aware that God is always working even when it might not appear to be so all is not as it seems. She embraces knowledge and is aware of its power and influence. 

She embraces change and sits between duality, is open to the insight of the past and the future/beginning and end. She is at her most powerful in the present. She accepts that in the pursuit of romance, not all is seen appropriately, her patience and passivity must apply in this area too. 

When we are open and honest to ourselves and others, what is hidden comes to the surfaces and gives way for inspiration from the most high to come through. The information you hold holds weight, substance and value, choose what, when and how to disclose anything about you. The world’s secrets are waiting to be discovered, taking the non-obvious way will lead you there.

 

I allow myself to be open to giving and receiving love without fear of rejection. 

 I give without expecting acknowledgement or recognition in return.

 I love myself the way I am, not the way I was or the way I could be I extend this love to others. 

 I teach others how to love and respect me by how I love and respect myself. 

Crystal Moonstone - A reminder of all the things we think we have forgotten. 

Stability and a reminder that darkness turns into light. Intuition and emotion regulator. 

Listen to Millie Jackson - It Hurts too Good. 

Strength

A figure clad in white, adorned in flowers and an infinity crown, stands by a lion - also in flowers - stroking it tenderly, neither are standoffish nor confrontational and are looking forward confidently in harmony.  

At first glance, the number 8 is about the material and tangible finite pursuits of success. Mystery, infinity reside in 8, the richness in life, nature our abilities and possibilities embodied within this. 8 is a can-do attitude that is willing to go through the struggle to get to the prosperity on the other side. The more you give the more you receive, this is a continuous and balanced look of stability, control and gratitude. You know who you are, what you are capable of and how to go after what it is your heart desires, this attitude can give you tunnel vision, do not let that blind you into thinking you are an island. 

Abundance is everywhere, in everything and reclaiming your power is your God-given gift. You have the capabilities of taming that which may frighten you. Love and tenderness are more effective than force or coercion. 

  

Your rawness is not something that you should fear, you are made of infinity from infinity. 

I know what my needs are and I actively pursue them knowing God guides and provides

I use my imagination, vision to initiate what I wish for. 

I am not a victim, I do not await a rescuer, I am strong and capable. 

Listen to Janet Jackson - The Velvet Rope.

Crystal - Blue/ Red Chalcedony - Maintaining balance, stability and reflection. Strength and power.