Projections

At what point should you question the validity of what you are thinking? 

Projections aren’t static, its easier to project onto someone than it is not to, sometimes we don’t even realise we are projecting. It

I had initially been thinking about projections and the role they play when building relationships with others, what are we projecting and how much of that projection is clouding the reality of the other and denying them the space to exist as them and instead of squeezing them in a small box we have conveniently marked with the role this person must play in our life. 

I thought about how projections work in already established relationships and what role they play in maintaining these relationships? Because if you start with projecting what it is you want to see and how you want to see it, what happens when the reality is no longer deniable? Whatever coping strategy picked will at some point no longer work once the boiling has reached. 

It is easy for the want to cloud our judgement to get lost within it, it is often much louder than reality and this dissonance causes pain. 

I am empathetic. I am patient with others and self because our being is born out of learning, we are here to learn and things won’t always just make sense. It is in the spaces where the opportunity to apply what we learnt through reflection, introspection and prayer where growth happens. 

It is in these spaces where we learn that intentionality should be applied.

Slow down and see people for what or whom they are and go to where you are seen and valued, that what you want from relationships is out there and you don’t have to settle for the crumbs in projections. 

This applies to all relationships out there, familial, platonic, romantic and whatever other kinds of relationship type yall are developing.

A mothersucking update.

Tehehe oi oi oi okay so this here projections really helps me know and understand when it shows up in others, EGO is strong in projections when we do not choose to acknowledge our part in and take accountability for how we act either in reaction to or response to what we think we know. I am learning further the role of humility and communication to projections and how silly projections when they play out.

Defensive mechanisms do more harm than good in the long run, they alienate us and imply intrinsic victimhood on us and because lies are drenched the sickly nectar of deceit that truth can't always compete. 

That's why it is really important to know yourself deeply, your actions and your intentions and motivations. No one can come and spew their wayward shit.

So much of projections is insecurities that blind us into thinking we are the main stars in other people's lives, this kind of living is a bit dead.