Are you a Friend; and for how long?

Noz you the OG.

My mum has a VERY VERY tight circle of friends that have successfully transcended the friend zone. So these people have known each other for 25+ years.

Fast forward to 25 years later. These women are still very much in each other's lives and its awesome. I will try and articulate what I am trying to say as simply as I possibly can...but essentially what I am trying to say is that I don't think friendships of now have the staying power of relationships of then. Call me a sceptic but I will hopefully breakdown why I think friendships of now don't have staying power, I will use fictitious hypothetical examples to try and drive my points. I might at the end of this just change my mind completely in regards to the lasting power of friendships of today. And on that note I must continue. I am gonna do this in stages coz otherwise it will turn in to a book on the dynamic and economic structures of friendships.

LoyaltyJust to illustrate how important loyalty is,  DJ Khaled handsomely rewards the woman I am going to assume is his significant other in the 'Hold you down' music video. He gives her enough money to

'Go buy your momma a house.

Go buy your whole family houses.

Put this money in your savings account.

Go spend some money for no reason.

Come back and ask for more'.

All this is because she is apparently smart loyal and grateful, I am not trying to say a DJ Khaled type figure will reward you each time you tick the smart loyal and grateful boxes of friendship, but I think this is a great visual and lyrical metaphor on the rewards of being loyal in friendship. I am going to argue that you can't have relationship like the one implied between Khaled and his lady friend without being friends first, I also appreciate that the relationship looks like a sugar daddy and his sugar baby but that isn't what I am taking about.
Khaled rewards this girl because there is a lack of loyalty in the way people function; so to display something as simple as loyalty you do become rewarded not always monetary. People form social bonds with people they think can provide them a social ladder, sometimes to climb up that ladder it requires you to display disloyal behaviour to people you may have once called your friends.

Some may argue that that is not necessary the case, but this is the rule and not the exception
Say you have two groups of friends there is U and group one who have been with you for a while, especially when compared to group two. At one point or the other, U will want group one and group two to meet and for a while things will go smoothly but will not progress and we all know that progression is necessary or death occurs.
Bear with me a second. In the beginning there will be equal balance between U, group one and group two. (Equilibrium)
Then an event will occur to shake things up...Everyone involved will be fully aware of this disturbance.
Then all groups will try and come an understanding and attempt to fix this disturbance.

Then finally a solution.

This solution will not result in the equilibrium that was initially established  and this is how progression of relationships work. Can I just say that this has made me realise that friendships and relationships are not linear its all a vicious circle. BUT I DIGRESS AWESOMELY!

-Mal
'5k to Couch'
Ps-This is me trying to understand the dynamic of friendships. Also friendships are pretty predictable, not timely but by the actions and reactions of people in friendship groups.